A seat with me

52. On grief, lineage, and writing through chaos, A SEAT WITH... Christina Fonthes

Sat, 26 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

“Nobody is born bitter, sadness is put upon us.”
 In this deeply moving episode of A SEAT WITH ME, I sit down with author, translator, and truth-teller Christina Fonthes to explore the quiet wounds we inherit, and the ones we choose to heal. Christina’s debut novel, Where You Go, I Will Go, unravels the tangled threads of a mother(s)-daughter relationship shaped by migration, silence, queerness, and love. But this conversation isn’t just about the book, it’s about the life behind the story.

Together, we talk about:

Grief, generational trauma, and the emotional cost of being the first daughter
Queerness within African families and diasporic shame
The hidden struggle of working-class writers trying to survive and create
The power of storytelling as resistance, healing, and rebirth
How art gives us permission to speak what silence buried

Whether you’re a writer, a daughter, a dreamer, or someone searching for home in your own story… this conversation is for you.

So come and take, 

A Seat With Me.

👤 WHERE TO FIND CHRISTINA: 
https://christinafonthes.com

📚 GET THE BOOK:
Where You Go, I Will Go (available now in English & German) - https://christinafonthes.com

🔗 LINKS:
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:

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www.aseatwithme.com

📚THE BOOKCLUB: 

https://www.instagram.com/rootsandpagesreads/

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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51. It's time to step up and rebrand ! See you soon !

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 04:02:00 +0000

👤 WHERE TO FIND:
My bookclub Roots & Pages:
IG: https://www.instagram.com/rootsandpagesreads/
Join the circle: http://aseatwithme.com/rootsandpages

🔗 LINKS:
The bookclub Roots & Pages: http://aseatwithme.com/rootsandpages
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter 

📫 WRITE ME:
 aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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50. You are not failing enough if you want to be successful, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 04:00:00 +0000

The road to success is paved with failures. Big failures, small failure, private and public failure. Today we discuss the strength that comes from embracing your failures in public.

This week’s episode invites you to explore the crucial lessons learned from failing in front of others. We discuss how putting yourself out there can build resilience, boost your confidence, and attract the right people into your life. You'll also hear about the importance of being visible and the transformative journey some well-known figures took before achieving success. I answer some questions about the fear of public failure and the hidden power it holds in shaping your path to success.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

#Motivation #Failure #PublicSpeaking #GrowthMindset #inspiration

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49. You’re not lost, you’re in transit: Navigating the Messy Middle

Wed, 21 May 2025 04:00:00 +0000

When you find yourself stuck between where you've been and where you want to be, how can you navigate these tricky times?

This week’s episode explores the concept of the “Messy Middle," a phase of uncertainty that everyone faces. We answer questions about overcoming doubts, sustaining motivation, trusting the journey despite setbacks, and I give you a “Messy Middle Survival Kit”. Gain insights into how to work through moments of chaos and confusion while understanding that your reality is simply a response to past beliefs and patterns. The goal is to learn how to move forward when nothing seems to be changing and how believing in your vision is key to manifesting your goals!

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

👤 WHERE TO FIND:

My bookclub Roots & Pages: http://aseatwithme.com/rootsandpages

InterKontinental (bookstore):

InterKontinental IG: https://www.instagram.com/ikontinental/

InterKontinental Website: https://interkontinental.org

InterKontinental Adress: Sonntagstr. 26, 10245 Berlin

The African Book Festival: afribanbookfestival.de (Come swing by!)

🔗 LINKS:

The bookclub Roots & Pages: http://aseatwithme.com/rootsandpages

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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48. The emotional cost of wanting more: Can you be ambitious and happy?

Wed, 14 May 2025 04:00:00 +0000

Today we are talkings about Ambition. Although I will always promote Ambition, and tell you to be more ambitious, dreams bigger and all, being ambitious comes with an emotional cost. Let’s talk about how ambition can shape your life and what it truly costs. Are you ready to explore the fine line between chasing more and finding fulfilment? In this episode I delve into the impact of ambition on our lives, discussing how wanting more can lead to both achievement and potential pitfalls. We learn about the balance between striving for success and appreciating what you already have (!). Find out how ambition influences your happiness and the decisions you make, and gain insights on how to channel your desire for more in a healthy, productive way.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

📚 BOOK MENTIONED:
“The Gap and The Gain” by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy
“Atomic Habits” by James Clear

🔗 LINKS:
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
 aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,
Solène ☀️

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47. Finding your Purpose: Does it evolve over time?, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 07 May 2025 04:00:00 +0000

Let’s talk about Purpose today. I’ve always wondered: does our purpose stay the same, where you born with it or can it evolve as we change?

Whether it’s something that can shift as we grow or something we are meant to return to?

This episode explores whether our purpose changes with different life seasons or if we hold on to a singular purpose throughout life. We address important questions such as: What is purpose? How do we find it? Can purpose evolve as we grow older and gain new experiences? I give you a unique perspective on how the whispers of your soul guide you, showing that discovering your purpose involves peeling back layers of societal expectations and fears to reconnect with your true self.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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46. The truth about your purpose, and how to find it, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0000

Don’t do it for you, do it for them. That is my philosophy regarding Purpose. I want to help you understand that your purpose isn't just about personal fulfilment. Your purpose is an act of service to others. That’s why I believe ‘don’t do it for you ,do it for them." Many people talk about purpose, but often in a self-centered way, it’s time to change that.

In today’s episode, discover how to illuminate your path and inspire others by embracing your own purpose. I discuss the profound concept of purpose, emphasising that it goes beyond personal fulfilment. I’m giving you key insights including: understanding that your purpose is not just for you; it's an act of service that can create a ripple effect throughout your community and the world. Learn how to connect your unique talents with the world’s needs and the importance of community in discovering your purpose. We also address the challenge of overcoming fear and isolation, showing that stepping into your purpose can lead to both personal growth and the upliftment of others.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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45. When it becomes hard to keep believing, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0000

Have you ever had a moment when it’s just hard to believe? In your dream, your worth, your path, your prayer? This episode is for that moment: when nothing makes sense and belief feels out of reach, when you are struggling to keep going, when doubts start creeping in. In today's episode, we explore the complexities of believing in yourself when life gets tough. We answer questions like: How do we maintain faith during challenging times? What is the importance of surrendering control? How can you deal with setbacks and uncertainty while still pursuing your dreams? Learn how to navigate the turbulent waters of doubt and trust the unfolding of your life’s journey.

So come and take,

A SEAT WITH ME

👤 WHERE TO FIND:
Hallease YT: https://www.youtube.com/@hallease 
Hallease IG: https://www.instagram.com/hallease.mp4

📚 SONG MENTIONED:
The Art of Surrender - GoldFord : https://open.spotify.com/track/6wdAUucLLvE5yLSpoUhVA8?si=fdb04f7e5f164588

🔗 LINKS:
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
 aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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44. Are your beliefs sabotaging your happiness, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 11:46:25 +0000

Your live revolves around your beliefs. Your dream life starts into your mind.

Let’s talk about how to reshape your life by transforming what you believe. This episode delves into the incredible power of your beliefs and how they define your reality. You’ll uncover how to identify beliefs that may be sabotaging your happiness, the significance of self-talk, and effective strategies for changing your mindset. You must learn to see your belief system as an algorithm, shaping your experiences and what you attract in life.Remember that your dream life is more about your mindset than material possessions and understand the importance of loving yourself to create a happier world.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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43. If you don't know what to do, do everything, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0000

How to navigate the journey of self-discovery and purpose? Are you ready to learn practical steps to figure out what you truly want in life? This episode offers insights into the process of identifying not only your desires but also what you don't want, making it easier to carve your personal path. It is crucial to take action even when you feel lost and how trying different things can help you learn about yourself. Understand the ripple effect of your purpose and how it impacts not just you, but those around you. Gain tips on decision-making and the significance of being assertive about your choices. This episode provides a unique perspective on the journey of self-exploration and how community and shared experiences can facilitate personal growth.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

🔗 LINKS
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
 aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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42. Leaving white supremacy behind, A SEAT WITH... Christian Picciolini

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +0000

How can a 14-year-old boy with no roots in hate-movements, end up becoming the leader of an extremist group, chanting racist songs in dark basements between America and Germany? That is the question I am asking Christian Picciolini, former extremist, author, antiracism activist (amongst many other things). At 14, he is indoctrinated a 20-something skinhead who will change the course of his life.

It is by sharing personal stories that we can pave the way for understanding and change. Christian Picciolini shares his compelling journey from a leader in a white supremacist movement to an advocate for peace and reconciliation. He openly discusses the search for identity, community, and purpose that drove him into extremism at a young age, and the lessons he learned about trust and empathy that now guide his work helping others disengage from hate groups.

This episode if about gaining insights into the psychology behind hate, how vulnerability can lead to transformation, and the critical importance of compassion in overcoming biases.

So come and take,

A Seat With Christian Picciolini

👤 WHERE TO FIND CHRISTIAN:

His website: Christianpicciolini.com

📚 BOOK MENTIONED

White American Youth: My Descent into America’s Most Violent Hate Movement—and How I Got Out

Breaking Hate: Confronting the New Culture of Extremism

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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41. Perfection will not make you successful, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +0000

We’ve been taught that success comes from perfection, but that’s a lie. The truth? Success isn’t about being perfect. It’s about staying in the game long enough for the world to notice. In this episode, we’re breaking free from the pressure to always make the "perfect" choice. You don’t need to be perfect to win, you just need to keep showing up. Perfection won’t guarantee success, but certainty will. In this episode, we’ll talk about: Why perfectionism is stopping you from even starting, the real secret behind success (hint: it’s not luck or talent), how to reframe failure and embrace the process, why taking imperfect action is the key to growth.

What’s one thing you’ve been waiting to start because it’s not "perfect" yet?

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

🔗 LINKS:
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:  
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,
Solène ☀️

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40. Overcome Self-Sabotage and become your biggest fan, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 05:02:00 +0000

I believe we all need to understand and accept that, very often, we are the biggest thing standing in the way of our success. No matter how hard of a pill it is to swallow, it is the truth. Notice how i said the biggest thing, not the only thing. In today’s episode, d iscover how to break down the barriers holding you back from your dreams!

This episode explores the journey of overcoming self-sabotage and becoming your own biggest cheerleader. I give you some key insights including understanding the fear of failure and success, tackling perfectionism and negative self-talk, and actionable tools to push past these mental blocks. Learn practical methods such as visualisation (one of my favourites!) and building a supportive inner dialogue to create lasting confidence and begin pursuing your goals.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

📚 SPEECH MENTIONED:

Lupita N’yongo Keynote Speech: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_LKpTHa2VoU

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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39. The highest form of self-love is Discipline

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000

he highest and best form of self-love is Discipline, and you this is one of my core beliefs. Discipline is the only secret to success and the solution to all your problems!

In today’s episode, discover how discipline can transform your life into one of achievement and self-love.

Let’s explore the powerful ways discipline serves as a foundation for success and personal growth. I talk about how to implement daily habits like reading, meditation, and exercise that lead to self-confidence and internal validation. I keep repeating myself but: the importance of habit tracking and creating an identity shift to enhance discipline!Discover why discipline is not just about restriction but about honouring your commitments to yourself and the amazing life you can build with it.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

📚 BOOK MENTIONED:

The Road Less Traveled - M. Scott Peck

The Artist’s way - Julia Cameron

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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38. Overnight success does not exist, A SEAT WITH... DK Jonah

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000

Let’s talk productivity today! I sit down with DK Jonah, Productivity Coach and all around amazing human being, based in London, UK. With DK, discover how to harness your true potential and take actionable steps to achieve your goals without the noise of perfectionism and doubt. Our conversation explores the essential themes of self-awareness, accountability, and the importance of focusing on a singular objective to avoid the trap of multitasking and distractions. Learn about the impact of societal pressures on personal progress and how to deal with trauma and past experiences effectively. Gain insights on how to cultivate patience in your journey towards success, the power of consistent actions, and the necessity of incremental growth.

So come and take,
A Seat With DK Jonah

👤 WHERE TO FIND DK JONAH:
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dkjonah/
Her TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dkjonah

📚 BOOK MENTIONED: 
The power of Quiet - Susan Cain
The Artist’s way - Julia Cameron

🔗 LINKS
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
 aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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37. Stop having a Plan B, you are wasting time

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000

You want to know what the problem is? You have to many Plan B.

Discover how to transform your dreams into reality with actionable steps.

This week’s episode explores the path to achieving your goals without taking shortcuts. I emphasise the importance of taking immediate action towards your dreams, whether that's starting a business, pursuing creative writing, or engaging in public speaking. Learn how limiting beliefs can create barriers to your success and discover techniques to overcome them. From my perspective, you need to embrace fear as a gateway to abundance and every action you take today shapes your future.

So come and take…

A Seat With Me

📚 BOOK MENTIONED:

Atomic Habits - James Clear

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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36. Hypnotise yourself for success, A SEAT WITH… Juliet Obodo

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000

Did you know that you can hypnotise yourself to make more money and be more successful? This is exactly what are guest today is here to teach you. Juliet Obodo is a financial hypnotherapist, subconscious coach and the founder of the FWRD Institute where she helps her clients identify and release subconscious blocks - particularly about money, empowering them to step into our highest potential.

With Juliet, discover how to transform your mindset and achieve true success with the power of hypnotherapy. We dive deep into the fascinating world of hypnotherapy, exploring its benefits for personal growth. You will learn about identifying self-limiting beliefs, goal-setting strategies tailored for those with ADHD, and how hypnotherapy addresses subconscious issues linked to behaviours. Our discussion also unveils the impact of hypnotherapy on areas like financial freedom, emotional well-being, and the power of community accountability.

WHERE TO FIND JULIET:

Her GYST Guide (Free): https://www.fwrdinstitute.com/gyst-guide?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab92BNunSaLEAQh5LoANxDL6xLGf4N2YvzL3xA8HaqW2ZPnkkrPrYfgFCc_aem__FELO9ssTLS7JO-uBpXT-A

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/julietcobodo/

Her FWRD Institute: https://www.fwrdinstitute.com/

Her FWRD Program: https://www.fwrdinstitute.com/shift

Her TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@milliondollarhypnotist

🔗 LINKS:

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:

 aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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35. Having a vision for yourself is how you success, A SEAT WITH ME

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +0000

The real secret to be successful in everything is simple: Create a powerful vision for your life and start living intentionally!

Today, I wanted to talk about the significance of crafting a personal vision and how it can transform your mindset and your life overall. Understand the steps to define your goals, the courage needed to pursue your dreams, and the importance of believing in yourself. Just know that the universe responds when you take bold leaps. Hence why you know to learn how to shut out negativity while building self-confidence. I give you my perspectives on journaling and the power of visualising your ideal life, as well as how to continuously refine your vision along your journey.

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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34. Dear Women, stop being nice, A SEAT WITH... Jennifer Walter

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:10:00 +0000

Remember that time you smiled and awkwardly said “thank you”, when in reality what you wanted to say was “F— off!” ? Yeah, we’ve all been there at some point in our lives. Women in particular we are socialised and raised to be nice in all environments and every situations. To discuss this further, today we sit down with Sociologist and Mental Health Practitioner Jennifer Walter. Sit down with us and discover the journey of self-awareness and empowerment in navigating personal boundaries.

We explore the complexities of people-pleasing behaviours, especially among women, and the distinction between being “nice” and being “kind”. Jennifer shares powerful insights about recognising physical sensations as indicators of personal boundaries, the impact of societal expectations on emotional labor, and actionable steps to start being true to oneself. But most importantly, the importance of community in personal well-being! Jennifer highlights the power of collective support in embracing individual values.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

👤 WHERE TO FIND JENNIFER:
Her Treehouse: https://www.jenniferwalter.me/treehouse?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab0RJ7cLeVJyjN0_YNqIKu1mJPm1L7cvZJE0uK9YGA_TFCiFq28IYoLrr8_aem_YBZ7Qof_sz7LqRFfUAkpNA
Her Podcast: SCENIC ROUTE: https://scenicroute.buzzsprout.com
Her TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsjenniferwalter
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsjenniferwalter/

🔗 LINKS:
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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33. Your Self-Concept: Simple habits to transform your life, A SEAT WITH... Alicia

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +0000

Our guest today is Alicia Tghlian, mindset coach, behaviour consultant, and content creator.

I am a true believe that you become who and what you think you are. We severely underestimate the power of our thought and how much it is shaping your reality.

Discover how to transform your mindset and elevate your self-concept to create lasting change in your life. With Alicia we covers essential topics such as the power of overnight affirmations, handling uncertainty, and the importance of aligning your actions with your values. She shares with us practical insights on how to cultivate self-love, break free from people-pleasing habits, and embrace the journey of personal growth. You'll learn how your self-concept shapes your reality and discover powerful tools to help you rewire your brain for success.

👤 WHERE TO FIND ALICIA:

https://www.instagram.com/growthforgirlies/

https://www.growthforgirlies.com/links/

https://www.growthforgirlies.com

https://www.tiktok.com/@growthforgirlies

📚 BOOK MENTIONED:

Atomic Habits - James Clear

Everything Joe Dispenza : Breaking the habit of being yourself & Becoming supernatural

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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32. Men get eating disorders too, A SEAT WITH... Sam Thomas

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +0000

Today we sit down with Sam Thomas to address Men and Eating Disorders, often overlooked. This conversations about eating disorders helps us reshape understanding and awareness.

With Sam Thomas we talk about men's experiences with eating disorders, breaking the common stereotypes associated with these issues. His key insights include the importance of sharing personal stories, understanding the societal pressures that contribute to eating disorders, and how listening with empathy can foster change. By sharing his journey, Sam Thomas sheds light on the often-overlooked male perspective on this serious topic, helping to connect the dots between societal expectations and mental health struggles.

👤 WHERE TO FIND SAM:

His LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/samthomas8186

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
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www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

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With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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31. 2025, New Year Wishes

Wed, 25 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Happy new year, happy holidays. Hoping that 2025 brings you everything you desire. Hoping that 2025 brings you clarity, joy, laughter, community, health and the power to step unapologetically into your Light.

Shine bright and remember how powerful you are 💛

With Love always, Solène

🔗 LINKS:
https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
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👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:
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30. How can you manifest your Specific Person?, A SEAT WITH… Kayla

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Today, we are talking all things Manifestation! Ever heard of it? If you are on social media, you probably have!

We sit down with Kayla, hypnotherapist and love coach extraordinaire. She manifested her Specific Person (now boyfriend) as well as weight loss, health, a better life, and the list goes on. She is a Master Manifestor and now, she helps others do the same.

If you want to discover how to transform your beliefs and manifest the life you desire, this is the episode for you. During our conversation, we delves into the power of self-discovery and belief in shaping your reality. Kayla teaches us how to identify limiting beliefs about ourselves and gives us practical techniques to shift our mindset. We uncover methods like affirmation, visualisation, and how your thoughts create your relationships. Gain unique insights into the importance of understanding our self-concept and how it reflects in our interactions with others.

Join this journey toward manifesting your dream life, your dream partner through honesty, reflection, and actionable steps!

So come and take,

A Seat With… Kayla.

👤 WHERE TO FIND KAYLA:
Her TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lovecoachkayla
Her Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@LoveCoachKayla

Her LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/lovecoachkayla

📚 AUTHORS MENTIONED:
Dr Joe Dispenza
Neville Goddard
Dr Joseph Murphy

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
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👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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29. We need to talk about Eating Disorders and Diet Culture, A SEAT WITH... Alli Bollinger

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000

We need to talk more about Eating Disorders and Diet Culture, because at this point, it is an epidemic. In today’s episode we seat down with ED Recovery coach Alli Bollinger to have an honest conversation. She herself went through an Eating disorder and successfully won that battle. Now she helps others on who are on the same journey, do the same.

With her insights and knowledge discover how to build a healthier relationship with food and break free from diet culture. During our discussion, we explore the complexities of eating disorders and the journey to recovery. We cover a range of important topics, including the spectrum of eating disorders, the impact of diet culture on mental health, and practical advice on seeking help. Gain a unique perspective on how societal pressures can shape our relationship with food and learn strategies for cultivating a positive mindset. This conversation reveals that food should be a source of joy and not an obsession.

👤 WHERE TO FIND ALLI:

Her Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/your_spoonful/

🔗 LINKS

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

📫 WRITE ME:
aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

👤 WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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28. Do we know how to build healthy relationships? A SEAT WITH… Lisa McFarland

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Do we know how to build healthy relationships? That’s the questions the million euros question.

In our pursuit of deep and meaningful connections, the road often becomes fraught with challenges.

In today’s episode, we sit down with Lisa McFarland, relationship coach, to explore the impact of personal growth on relationships. We talk about how self-acceptance is crucial for healthy connections and why many struggle with intimacy. Lisa drops a couple useful gems on attachment styles and how they affect interactions. She builds a career around helping couples having better relationships, better sex, but also… better arguments. We talk about how to approach conflicts, the healthy way, and Lisa share with us crucial non-negotiable tools to build healthy, lasting, fulfilling relationships.

Discover how to transform your relationships and enhance self-love.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

WHERE TO FIND LISA:

Her Website:https://relationshipcoachni.com

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship.coaching.ni/

Her Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therelationshipcoach?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAabMwVaO7FFiELLBKEAMnsm2UBF5RysQi-0vIosJ1PwGuOLpZXlZPtEzv2o_aem_LoAfyifyhLTqWlQ55nDTBg

BOOK MENTIONNED:

Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity

OTHER MENTIONS:

https://manenough.com - Justin Baldoni

LINKS:

https://www.aseatwithme.com/newsletter

WRITE ME:
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www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps
https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps/

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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27. Unmake your box: The path to personal freedom, A SEAT WITH... Veronica Louis

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000

In today’s conversation, we sit down with Veronica Louis. Discover how to break free from the limitations that hold you back and embrace your true self.

Explore the transformative concept of "unmaking your box" and learn how it can lead to personal freedom. Our beautiful conversation delves into understanding the boxes that society creates and how we can begin to dismantle them. Veronica shares her key insights, including recognising your internalised limitations, embracing creativity, and the importance of community in the journey of self-exploration. Gain practical tools to create your own adventure and empower yourself to live authentically.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

WHERE TO FIND VERONICA:

https://www.unmakingboxes.com

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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26. Love yourself, more than you love sugar, A SEAT WITH... Jenn Edden

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000

I've had this interest in addiction, and more particularly Sugar Addiction. Not only because I think i just might be addicted to it, but also because Sugar Addiction is not a topic that we talk enough about, and we underestimate it. In today's episode, we are taking a seat with Jenn Edden, Sugar Addiction Expert, and Founder of Sugar Freedom Method. With Jenn, discover the real root of your sugar cravings. How to break free from sugar cravings and regain control of your life? Well, Jenn will tell you!

Gain insights into the complex world of sugar addiction and explore powerful techniques to recognise your cravings and make conscious choices. Our conversation delves into the psychological aspects of addiction, highlighting the importance of emotional awareness and the impact of stress and anxiety. Learn about practical strategies like Jenn's "pause technique," which allows you to create space between wanting sugar and consuming it. With a compassionate approach, Jenn tells us how to address the root causes of our cravings and cultivate a healthier relationship with food. A mindset shifting conversation!

So come and take,

A Seat With Jenn

ABOUT JENN: Jenn is a holistic health coach, sugar addiction expert, author and founder of the Sugar Freedom Method. With her background in Biochemistry, holistic health certifications, and accredited by the American Association of Drugless Practitioners, she helps women all over the world gaining back control and kick sugar out of their lives for good

Jenn Edden's website: https://jecoaching.com

Her book "Woman Unleashed": https://amzn.to/3YIXscQ

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com
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WHERE TO FIND ME: https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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25. Healing through pleasure and sensuality, A SEAT WITH... Fede

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Today's guest is Fede. I met Fede randomly at a store and we connected right away. When I later discovered that she is a Somatic Therapist, I thought it would be great to have her on the Podcast for a conversation! Discover how to transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. Fede reveals how to embrace your emotions and reclaim your power through self-love, pleasure, and community. We talk about the importance of feeling your feelings, allowing all emotions without judgment, and how experiences shape our beliefs about love and intimacy. Our discussion covers vital topics such as the connection between emotional well-being and sexual empowerment, the role of shadow work in healing, and the healing power of community. Fede share her unique perspective on the journeys toward authentic living, shedding shame, and celebrating pleasure as a path to liberation.

So come and take,

A SEAT WITH ME

WHERE TO FIND FEDE:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/erotichighpriestess/

JOIN HER COMMUNITY: https://t.me/+w9WI8_pBZI44OTVk?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZhvFs7KC4eZ4rnL_YOrQRYJfQixSqzFLVhjDgS1z824iYHtY2NmsT5JIA_aem_Pw96P5PCA6yMZcQ08bnzng

TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@erotichighpriestess

RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS AND PEOPLE VICTIM OF SA

https://findahelpline.com https://victim-support.eu/help-for-victims/info-on-specific-types-of-victims/sexual-violence-victims/

WRITE ME:

aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

IG: https://www.instagram.com/soleneallcaps/

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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24. We are seeking Happiness in all the wrong places

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Let's talk about Happiness. Today, we explore the concept that many of us seek happiness in the wrong places, primarily through the accumulation of material possessions. We ask (and hopefully answer) crucial questions such as: What feelings do we genuinely crave when we desire things? How can we cultivate these feelings in our lives without the need for external validation? The discussion provides a unique perspective on inner peace and emotional well-being, emphasising that happiness stems from within, not from the acquisition of 'things'. By releasing attachments to outcomes and focusing on feelings, we can unlock a world of joy and satisfaction.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME: https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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23. Vipassana: Living like a Monk for 10 days

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 04:01:00 +0000

Today, we are talking about my experience at my first Vipassana course. It’s a 10 days course where you learn the Vipassana Technique (more than 2500 years old) as well as Dhamma (the teachings of Buddha). During those 10 days: no talking, no phone, no eye contact, no writing, no reading, no distractions at all… except your mind. You meditate for upwards of 10hours a day and you have 2 meals and a snack. It is more than a meditation retreat and it is definitely NOT a holiday! It is a real meditation course (that is free and accessible to everyone) and you go there to look inwards and explore your own self. Isn’t that great?

This was BY FAR one of the best experiences of my entire life so far.

If you are even remotely interested by it, I strongly recommend you go and learn the techniques… without doing too much research prior to it. Just allow yourself to discover and learn about Vipassana in the right settings and give 10days of your life to forever change your Self.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

Learn more about Vipassana: https://www.dhamma.org/en/index

The teacher: S. N. Goenka.

BOOKS:

“Vipassana Meditation: The Art Of Living as taught by S.N Goenka” - William Hart
“A Meditation Handsbook” - Bill Crecelius
“The moon appears when the water is still” - Ian McCrorie
“Karma and chaos” - Paul Fischerman
“Meditation Now” - S. N Goenka

LINKS FOR FREE RESSOURCES:

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With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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22. The Bio dome metaphor

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 04:04:00 +0000

Today, I talk about one of my favourite metaphor: The Bio dome metaphor.

I remember the first time i stepped foot in a Bio dome, I was fascinated. And as time went on, I realised that it is the perfect way to understand us as people. Bio dome are a beautiful oasis of diversity, beauty, just like you. I think the best way to take care of yourself, but also, to be in relationship with people is to see yourself as a beautiful rich Bio Dome.

In today’s episode, I dive deeper into what i mean by that, hoping that it will all make sense when i put my thoughts into words

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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21. You are the Universe

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today’s episode serves as a reminder that I need you to engrave in your mind: You are the Universe. You are the God of/in your life. This means that you have the power to create and experience the life of your dream.

Some people are actually scared to step into their power, and prefer to delegate it to an outside source. Don’t be that person! Have the courage and enough love for yourself to claim your power and do with it what you want.

You are made of stardust and this is not “nothing”. All the answers you need, are within you, if you care enough to listen to your emotions, to the whispers of your Soul and the Universe. Yes, you are that powerful. Do not wait on anyone outside of yourself to give you directions for your life and refuse to be a bystander, a passive actor in your life. Embrace the beauty that you inherently are! You are the Universe, and you hold its power within you.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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20. Be consistent with it

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 06:44:21 +0000

Today, we talk about the importance of Consistency in your life in order to transform your life and live the life you’ve always dreamed of. One of my favourite motivational quotes that i keep repeating to myself everyday, and every time I do not feel like doing something on my to-do list is “You have to apply Discipline and Consistency”. Without these two, your dream life, will remain a dream.

This apply as well for your Manifestation journey. All the manifestations practices that you want to apply, they must be done consistently, if you want to achieve any results! Yes, the Universe is wired to bless you, to work in your favour, however, you still need to show up everyday with the correct energy, with the correct vibrations to receive it and allow it in.

It is normal to experience some set backs, but crucial to keep your eyes on the prize no matter what and be consistent with it.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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19. On Feeling Lost

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today, i am coming to you in the spirit of feeling lost and confused, BUT there is a silver lining! I DO have a A-HA moment at the very end of this episode, so there is light at the end of the tunnel.

September is the month of reflection and assessment. I think that i am going through a period of growth and re-invention. This year has been about transforming my life and the shift first happened internally. I focused on getting my mental health on track and discovering myself. Now, i think the shift is happening and impacting other parts of my Life. I am almost a whole new person! Or more accurately, I am becoming even more of myself and who I am meant to be.

As September is coming to an end, i am reflecting on what i’ve done so far and where i am going,

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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18. Your outer world, conforms to your inner world

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Welcome, welcome, today we talk about how your outer world confroms to your inner world. Everything that you are experiencing and living in this 3D reality is a direct reflection of your inner world (thoughts, beliefs, emotions, perspectives…). That means that you are in control, you are the creator of your Reality and anything is possible. If you want to transform your life, manifest a new life, it all start within. The first step to any transformation is to look inwards. There is no point into trying to change your 3D if you are not doing first the real work of changing your thoughts, your beliefs and reprogramming your mind.

When you change your inner world, your outer world WILL respond and change. It is a Universal Law. And how empowering is that right?? You simply have to get a hold of your thoughts/beliefs and redirect them towards your greater purpose, et voila! (I know, easier said than done) The recipe is pretty simple on paper. It is maybe the application that can be a little… tricky. But this is what we are talking about today,

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

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www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

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17. How do you garden?

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 04:03:00 +0000

In today’s episode, we talk about gardening, but not in the way that you think. We talk about caring for your Manifestation garden. You know how i love a metaphor and gardening in the perfect metaphor to understand how to Manifest anything you want in life.

I also share an email i received from one of the listener (LOVE YOU). She shared details of her story with me and asked me very relatable and powerful questions. I thought i’d expand of my answers because i truly believe that a lot of people can relate to her situation.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

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www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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16. Let go of the how

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today! We are talking about Letting go. The easiest, yet hardest thing to do.

In order to achieve your dream life, you must learn how to let go of the How. Let go of the “How am i going to get there?” “How is it going to happen?” That’s the Universe/God business, not yours. The Universe takes care of the how, you focus on the Now. This is what we are diving in today.

This is the underlying issue of a lot of people trying to manifest their dreams or improve their lives: they are focused on making a plan, on controlling the outcome, controlling the journey (instead of enjoying it), they are focused on “how” something will happen. You cannot know that. You cannot plan in advance how something will happen. Your subconscious can only imagine your future, not plan it. And this is the beauty of life! Allow the Universe to bless you, to surprise you and to bring you your blessings in unexpected ways, on a golden platter!

Your role is to focus on your desired reality, on your goals, align your energy with your desires, not figure out “how” to get them. Your work is to love yourself, and have that clear picture of your future self.

You know how I love a GPS theory, so we are talking about that today: Let go of the how, and focus on the Now,

So come and take,

A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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15. How do you know you're doing the right thing?

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today's episode is inspired by something i am going through at the moment, after years of never knowing "if i was doing the right thing".

And actually, the answer to this questions is surprisingly simple! We like to overcomplicate things but it all boils down to only one thing. Trust me, you have all the answers within you and no one else but you, knows what's the best decision for you.

I decided to sit down today in the hope of helping you answer THEE question we all have at some point "How do i know i am doing the right thing?"

So come and take, A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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14. What are your intentions

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today we are talking about an important step on healing, manifestation journey: Setting intentions. Often overlook, or even forgotten, we don't take enough time in our day or in our lives to set the correct intentions.

I rant for about 7min and the actual starts around 7min!

Intentions are like the wind in the sails of a boat, it sets your direction and your speed. Without intentions, you are like a headless chicken without a goal. If you have a vision for yourself, than you must spend time and energy setting those intentions, daily.

I talk about that, I also mention the fact that i am now back in my gym-healthy-girl-era, MY NEW FOUND LOVE FOR KAMALA HARRIS! YES, NEXT PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA!

So come and take, A Seat With Me

MENTIONNED:

The App Blinklist : https://www.blinkist.com/?utm_source=tiktok&utm_medium=socialmedia&utm_term=signuppage&utm_content=microinfluencer&utm_campaign=soleneallcaps

Normani's album - DOPAMINE

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www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

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With Love, always,

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12. Detach from your reality

Wed, 07 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Cheers to a new episode! This week i am coming to you with the best mood ever. These last weeks felt absolutely amazing.

Today i wanted to talk to you about a very important topic on your Manifestation journey that we often overlook. If you want to Manifest your dream life easily, you must do one thing: Completely detach from your reality. Sounds intimidating at first but crucial to your journey and truly easy to do.

Stop looking at your 3D world to see if your Life is changing, if your Manifestations are materialising. It does not matter. Your subconscious does not know the difference between an idea and the reality. Focus inward, and reject everything that does not align with your vision, with your dreams. Let's talk about all of that.

So come and take, A Seat With Me

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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11. Show up as the person you want to become

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 04:01:00 +0000

Todaaaay, on this brand new episode, we talk about Self-concept. In oder to manifest your new reality, in starts in your mind, your subconscious mind. To train your mind to change your set of beliefs you need to act as if you already have everything you desire, you already are the person you want to become. Basically, play pretend! Just like when we were kids. Show up in this world physically, emotionally and mentally, as if you ALREADY have it all. Because you do! Then and only then will your reality and the Universe align with this new energy you are putting out and give you everything you want. That's the magic of manifesting.

So come and take, A Seat With Me.

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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10. The Power Of Your Thoughts

Wed, 24 Jul 2024 04:33:00 +0000

Today is a beautiful day to talk about your subconscious. Understanding the power that my thoughts have on my life and my external world has drastically changed my life so i thought i would share. Lots of us are acting on auto-pilot. Lots of us are governed by old thought pattern without ever realising it. Your thoughts are shaping your reality, you see and you live what you believe. Over the years you've been creating a set of thoughts (often negative, pessimistic) that you don't even question anymore and think it is THEE truth. You don't even realise how harmful this could be and how this is standing between you and your dream life! Your subconscious acts on your command and trusts what you say and think. If you believe you are not deserving, you are worthless and incapable, than you subconscious will put you in just the situation to reinforce that! On the other hand if you think you deserve all the love, joy, money, your subconscious will put you in situations to attract exactly that. It is all a matter of how to talk to yourself. A change in your life, starts by a change in your Self-Concept, the way you think and see yourself. This is what we are talking about today,

So come and take... A Seat With Me.

BOOKS:

The power of your subconscious mind - Dr. Joseph Murphy

Ask and it is given - Esther Hicks

Psyco-cybernetics - Maxell Martz

Becoming Supernatural - Dr. Joe Dispenza

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

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WHERE TO FIND ME: https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps With Love, always, Solène ☀️

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09. All the answers are within you, A Seat With... Martha Sambe

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0000

WHAT A JOY. Todaaaay, I have the honour to sit down with the beautiful Martha Sambe. We met at the African Book Festival a few weeks ago, and i immediately knew i wanted to have her on the podcast.

She is a writer, singer, magical black girl, strategist, editor, speaker, born in Nigeria and now located in Hamburg, Germany.

We sat down to talk about finding salvation through writing, healing trauma through writing, and we ended up talking about Faith, reclaiming your Life, getting rid of fear and operating from a place of faith. You know? the good stuff.

Forever grateful to have had the opportunity to speak to Martha, hope you enjoy this conversation as much as i did and find a little nugget of Life Lessons in there that resonates with you,

So come and take, A Seat with Martha Sambe.

BOOKS:

Aftershocks: A Memoir - Nadia Owusu

Freshwater - Akwaeke Emezi

Vagabonds! - Eloghosa Osunde

Butter Honey Pig Bread - Francesca Ekwuyasi

These letters end in tears - Musih Tedji Xaviere

Big Girl - Mecca Jamilah Sullivan

Traveling while black and lesbian - Khanyisa Mnyaka

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www.aseatwithme.com

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With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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08. My body hates me. Going gluten-free!

Wed, 10 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Let's talk gut health! Over the past week I realised a few things when it comes to my (physical) health. Namely: i barely take care of it.

2024 is the year that i transform my life. A part of that transformation is reconnecting and listening to my body. My relationship to my body was not always great (Hashtag like-any-other-women-on-this-planet). Lately i realised that i was not treating myself kindly even thought i should and my body was sending me signs. Feeling uncomfortable, feeling bloated... all of it, and to be fair, i normalised it. I tried to reduce sugar, to incorporate more fruits and veggies, i don't drink sodas or coffee. But still, was not feeling well. Up until last week it dawned on me: It's probably the gluten!

Part of this transformation journey is also about cleaning my diet, taking care of my gut and this is exactly what i plan to do from now on. I'm going gluten-free! (and i don't like to cook, so this transition will be interesting.)

Recording this episode made something click in me. I am ready to really make a change in my diet and lifestyle and take you with me,

So come and take, A Seat With Me.

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

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With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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07. Queer Authors, Queer Stories from the African Book Festival Queer Edition

Sat, 06 Jul 2024 04:33:00 +0000

Today, in this bonus episode of A SEAT WITH ME, we talk books. Queer books, queer authors, African authors.

I've had the pleasure to volunteer at the African Book Festival here in Berlin that went on for three days. It was their 4th edition and their 1st Queer edition. During those 3 days, you had readings, panel discussions, poetry night, African food and market and more. Obviously, when left alone to my own devices with books, i loose my mind and spend all my money. Today, we are talking about all the books i bought at the African Book Festival as well as all the authors i had the privilege to meet. Because yeah, i don't want to brag but i was able to get (almost) all my books signed by their authors and talk to them one-on-one.

What a blessing to attend such a great event and even more being able to talk to all the authors, have enlightening conversations, meet amazing volunteers and bookworms like me.

The Festival is organised by a local bookstore here in Berlin: https://www.interkontinental.org. Check them out!

Support queer authors, support women authors, read books 💛

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

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BOOKS MENTIONED:

Freshwater - Akwaeke Emezi

The Prophets - Robert Jones Jr.

Butter Honey Pig Bread - Francesca Ekwuyasi

These letters end in tears - Musih Tedji Xaviere

Invisible Stories from Kenya’s Queer Community - Kevin Mwachiro

And then he sang a lullaby - Ani Kayode

Big Girl - Mecca Jamilah Sullivan

Traveling while black and lesbian -

Blackass - A. Igoni Barrett

LINKS:

InterKontinental: https://www.interkontinental.org

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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06. Moving abroad for a new start

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0000

"If a flower doesn't bloom, you don't change the flower, you change the environment". This is one of my favourite quote because it applies to our lives so much. You are the flower in this case. Sometimes, the problem the environment you are in, preventing you from blooming, achieving your full potential and manifesting your dream life. In that case, there is only one solution: change the environment. It might be leaving your city, changing countries completely, letting go of friends or changing career... Sometimes your Dream Self needs a change.

Yes, it can be scary, but moving abroad to fulfil your vision does not have to be hard! And, as much as it can be difficult to accept, it is okay to decide that your hometown can not fulfil you or make you happy.

This is what we are talking about today, as i am sharing my experience with moving abroad.

So come and take,

A Seat With Me.

LINKS:

InterKontinental: www.interkontinental.org

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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05. You choose broke or unfulfilled?

Wed, 26 Jun 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today we talk about the dilemma that a lot of us from the younger generations are facing in our lives: choosing a life that fulfils you, but does not necessarily pays well, or choosing a big check over fulfilment and happiness at work. As a lot of the most fulfilling careers are not the most popular and well-paid ones, it does feel like nowadays, it is a choice you have to make. As Gen-z's and Millennials are entering the workforce, it can often seem like we have to make a sacrifice, one way or another. Sacrifice financial security or sacrifice mental health. Is there a world where we do not need to make such a sacrifice? Is there a way for us to create a life that works for us on both front, fulfilment and financial security?

I do believe we can create the Life of our dream from scratch, but this takes time, energy and... money (ironically enough). We also talk about the concept of "Dream Job". Why, so often, our dream job is not aligned with our financial goals but most importantly why we need to get rid go the whole thing for our well-being! (Let's stop dreaming of labour, shall we?)

Let's talk about it.

So come and take, A Seat With Me.

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always,

Solène ☀️

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04. Failing in public, European Elections, Seen trying

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Today we are talking about failing in public and being seen trying. If you ever wanted to launch a business, start a project or even start posting on social media, chances are you've had that feeling of being scared to fail in public: I CAN RELATE.

In January 2024, I decided to take social media seriously and post consistently, and BOY is this a rollercoaster for my mental health! The cringiness of posting for no views and no engagement, the thought that people you know may come across your page... LORD. But in order to reach your goals, to fulfill your vision, you need to find ways to get over that feeling, or at least accept it as part of the Journey. Keep your eyes on the prize, remind yourself why you started and accept that it is temporary.

There are ups and downs on every path and the faster you come to terms with that, the better you can navigate this new endeavour you started.

Oh, we are also talking about the European Elections because WHAT IS GOING ON??

So come and take, A Seat With Me.

BOOKS: JAMES CLEAR - Atomic Habits

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME: https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

With Love, always, Solène ☀️

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03. Prioritising yourself ?

Wed, 12 Jun 2024 04:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, we've got mail! After being locked out from my email box, I finally got to access it and see a beautiful e-mail from Marie. She shares her experience and her life as a 20-something woman, former people-pleaser. She talks about how, she is finally able to take a look back at her life and see how some things and relation from her past have probably affected her more than she thought. Marie also asks us a few questions:

How you realised that you needed to take care of yourself, what are your little rituals, how your mental health has evolved since you started prioritising yourself?

This is what we are going to talk about today: How to prioritise ourselves, when we've been conditioned to put other people first and our needs, second?

It is not an easy task, but absolutely necessary if you want to improve your life. Prioritising yourself is not selfish, it is not about isolating yourself and it actually helps love better and care better for others people.

We also talk about a few randoms news from my life, the book of the month and fav of the moment.

So come and take, A Seat With Me.

BOOKS:

MIKKI KENDALL - Hood Feminism

HANYA YANAGIHARA - A Little Life

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah *Julia Fox voice * ✨

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www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

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With Love, always

Solène

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01. Addicted to hating ourselves (Ft. Baby Reindeer on Netflix)

Wed, 29 May 2024 06:52:00 +0000

A few weeks ago, I watched Baby Reindeer, a beautifully written show available on Netflix. It's based on the true story of the show's writer Richard Gadd, his life and encounter with Martha Scott, a convicted stalker. I immediately knew it needed to be an episode of the podcast, as it masterfully addresses a multitude of extremely poignant and profound topics. It is such an honest and relatable depiction of Life! In Baby Reindeer, Donny (the main character, played by Richard Gadd) acknowledges that his self-hatred and low self-esteem played an enormous part in his continuous interactions/relation with stalker Martha Scott (played by Jessica Gunning) and other abusive predatory people he meets in his life. How can you not relate to that?

This is what we are talking about today in this episode of A Seat With Me. Self-hatred, low self-esteem and low self-respect can and will lead you down the wrong path, throughout your life. Your pursuit of happiness, love, success etc... must be rooted in self-love in order to successfully reach your goals. Easier said than done, I know, but an absolute necessity.

Admittedly, Donny kind of enjoys the attention he gets from his stalker, but why is that? And what can we learn from him? (Spoiler alert: A LOT!)

With gut-wrenching honesty, Donny dares to dig deep within himself to go to the roots of his own existence, gifting us much needed life lessons and a lot to think about and discuss.

So come on and take, a seat with me.

BOOKS:

MARTHA BECK - The Way to Integrity: Finding the path to your true self

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah *Julia Fox voice* ✨

WHERE TO FIND ME:

TikTok: @soleneallcaps

Website: aseatwithme.com

WRITE ME: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com I'll be delighted to read you.

With Love always,

Solène ☀️

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CHEERS TO THE JOURNEY

Tue, 21 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Cheers to the very first episode of my podcast A SEAT WITH ME. For this episode, we are just going to ease into it. I tell you about me, my story, who am i basically and i talk to you more about this podcast. Why on earth would i start a podcast and what you can expect from A SEAT WITH ME (ASWM)

My name is Solène, and i will be your host. My goal with this podcast is to make this a conversational place, i want to hear from you, i want to hear your thoughts, your stories, your opinions. You can send me an email directly at: aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

It would be my greatest pleasure to read you! Actually you can send an email, a voice note, a video... whatever you are most comfortable with!

BOOKS:

YAA GYASI - Transcended Kingdom

MARTHA BECK - The Way to Integrity: Finding the path to your true self

PRODUCTS: Eucerin - Face Sun Fluid Pigment Control SPF 50+

MUSIC: I actually did it myself, yeah Julia Fox voice ✨

aseatwithmepodcast@gmail.com

www.aseatwithme.com

WHERE TO FIND ME:

https://www.tiktok.com/@soleneallcaps

https://www.tiktok.com/@aseatwithme

With Love,

Bisous bye

Solène ☀️

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